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MODELS WANTED

 

modelswantedThickly Tat’d is looking for Models to be featured in the December posting. If your are a plus size models with Tattoos and would like this opportunity, please submit 1 head shot and 1 body shot professional or high quality photo to Thicklytatd.com in the subject field put Thickly Tat’d Modeling.  Please add your name, age and a brief description on why your happy in the skin your in and what helped get you to that point. 

Submissions will be viewed and 5 people will be chosen by November 30, 2016.

 

Good luck

 

Thickly Tat’d Team

 

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Let’s Have  Conversation : Relationship Deal Breakers

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So your new to the dating scene or maybe getting back out there. What are your deal breakers? What are the things you just won’t tolerate? For everyone its different of course, but I’ve heard some very similar answers recently that I would love to share with y’all.

1. Smokers or drug users

There are times you can tell right away whether someone smokes, drinks or does drugs. But sometimes, this information takes time to emerge. Or you might know about it but think it will be okay. Then you realize that it is getting in the way of the relationship. Be honest about how you feel on this because its not ok to put your feelings aside if its that important.

2. Children

The issue of having children needs to be dealt with early in a relationship. If you really want children and your partner says he or she doesn’t, do not count on this changing. So many people get into relationships hoping that they can change their partners mind. It can definitely cause a rift in the relationship and possibly to end. Listen to your partner and really decide if your really ok with the possibility of not having children.

3. Money

Now this is a big one. First things first, if your a saver and your partner is a spender, this can cause many relationship problems. Sometimes this can be solved ahead of time when the spender agrees to let the saver manage the money. But if the spender is addicted to spending , this isn’t going to work. You have to decide if you can deal with this or not. If your trying to build a future, then this definitely needs to be talked about.

4. Cheating

Last but not least, if you find out that your partner has cheated you have a decision to make. Some people in this situation give their partner another chance. But others move on if they find out that their partner has cheated. If it seems hopeless like its no break in sight, do what you need to do to keep your peace. Just let it go. Now if you both decide to go into counseling and do the deep work necessary to heal the underlying issues, then go for it!

Comment below with your deal breakers and lets discuss.

Let’s Have A Conversation: 90’s Music

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Is it me , or has music changed drastically in the past 10-15 yeas? I mean don’t get me wrong ,there were some hits here and there, but the consistency was nothing like the 90’s. Me and my friends talk about this all the time. We’re all in our late twenties early thirties and still listen to music of our generation. I just feel like nothing was more real or influential than the music of the 90s. It had a message whether it was hip-hop or R&B. It was about the music it wasn’t just about a nice beat. Music is about the words and how they make you feel as well as the rhythm and how it makes you feel. Honestly if I want to just hear a  beat I’ll just buy a instrumental. Crazy thing is I’ve heard this so much in the past couple years from people that i know to complete strangers just venting about the quality of music that’s being put out. People don’t even listen to the radio anymore because they play the same music over and over for 4 hours or more. Back then we had crooners, guy groups and female trios. They sung about love and respect. Music was about the ups and downs of relationships and love from both sides. Men weren’t afraid to say that they were hurt,  broken up with or got cheated on. It was sexual innuendos and sensual lines that we didn’t even know where naughty. Nowadays it’s just out there, no guessing or suggestions just flat-out derogatory lyrics that many don’t find appealing.I don’t know about anybody else but I love mystery in my music. Maybe something that gives me hope and lessons in love and life. Now of course this is my personal opinion but “let’s just have a conversation.”

What do you all think about today’s music Vs. the 90’s

 

Janae

Stand Up

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Hearing the sounds
Of crying mothers
As you smother our sons
With your hand of injustice
Its just “us”
In these streets
It then repeats
Rapid gun shots
Of glocks and automatics
Its systematic
How problematic
These times are
Raise the bar of
Education and responsibility
Have the ability to
Want better and do better
The letter of the law wasn’t addressed to us
In GOD we trust
We must no longer slain
Our fellow man
Then demand “the MAN” to respect us
And accept us
When no one kills their own
Except US
Of course that’s an exaggeration
But you get my point
This joint effort of unity
Is what we need
Plant the seed
Of acting and taking a stand
Rise out the sinking sad
Begin the resurrection of LIFE

 

Written by Jane

Unsure Love: My Poetry

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So many times
Time has given
Us a moment
Where time stands still
And still….nothing

Its something I cant
Let go of
Unsure love
Make sure of
My feelings
Before spewing doubt
Cause I could do without

Hesitation in my words
Because they’re never heard
Just laughs and jokes
Pokes of fun at feelings
My dealings with you
Have changed and rearranged
Into simple hi and byes
Because what I’ve realized
Hurt quite a bit

But it’s ok
It’s my fault anyway
So I sit and sway in my thoughts
In my moments of solidarity
The only way to have clarity
Is to hide you in my poetry

Janae

 

It’s A Conversation: In-Laws

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So this for my married folks or my readers in serious relationships. Do you think in the event that your in-laws step out of line, that you or your spouse should take the step to address the issue?

Speaking of addressing issues. What are the topics that you would think you would have the biggest issue with? Maybe suggestions on raising children or advice on running your marriage? Some couples never experience issues with in-laws, but more times then not there are ones who do. In my opinion, there is more issues with mothers and their new found daughters. Also I notice more friction with single mothers. Not saying it can’t be the other way around but its just  something i have  noticed. Its totally understandable,  you have to now put the well being of your son in someone else’s hands for the remainder of his life.

Men are also very territorial over their”little girls”. When they give their baby away to their future husband, they need to be assured of security. But can parents cross the line? I have a few ways to keep the peace between you, your partner and the in-laws.

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1. Starting with the main topic of this. Who corrects the situation when one arises? You both do. Communicate with your spouse and you both need to decide first, is it a real issue? If it is you go to them calmly and respectfully and talk it out.

2. Speaking of communication, always communicate with your spouse first. Never go behind their back. Your a team and that’s how you deal with things.

3. Talk about boundaries and stick with them. Once you communicate your problem and come up with a resolution. Come up with a way that it doesn’t rear it’s ugly head again..

You and your spouse are more powerful than you think. You’re adults; you’re a family unit. You can control visits, holiday celebrations, and access to grandchildren. Don’t assume that you’re powerless. No one can push you around if you don’t let them.

Leave your comments below so we can discuss.

~Janae