Unsure Love: My Poetry

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So many times
Time has given
Us a moment
Where time stands still
And still….nothing

Its something I cant
Let go of
Unsure love
Make sure of
My feelings
Before spewing doubt
Cause I could do without

Hesitation in my words
Because they’re never heard
Just laughs and jokes
Pokes of fun at feelings
My dealings with you
Have changed and rearranged
Into simple hi and byes
Because what I’ve realized
Hurt quite a bit

But it’s ok
It’s my fault anyway
So I sit and sway in my thoughts
In my moments of solidarity
The only way to have clarity
Is to hide you in my poetry

Janae

 

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It’s A Conversation: In-Laws

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So this for my married folks or my readers in serious relationships. Do you think in the event that your in-laws step out of line, that you or your spouse should take the step to address the issue?

Speaking of addressing issues. What are the topics that you would think you would have the biggest issue with? Maybe suggestions on raising children or advice on running your marriage? Some couples never experience issues with in-laws, but more times then not there are ones who do. In my opinion, there is more issues with mothers and their new found daughters. Also I notice more friction with single mothers. Not saying it can’t be the other way around but its just  something i have  noticed. Its totally understandable,  you have to now put the well being of your son in someone else’s hands for the remainder of his life.

Men are also very territorial over their”little girls”. When they give their baby away to their future husband, they need to be assured of security. But can parents cross the line? I have a few ways to keep the peace between you, your partner and the in-laws.

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1. Starting with the main topic of this. Who corrects the situation when one arises? You both do. Communicate with your spouse and you both need to decide first, is it a real issue? If it is you go to them calmly and respectfully and talk it out.

2. Speaking of communication, always communicate with your spouse first. Never go behind their back. Your a team and that’s how you deal with things.

3. Talk about boundaries and stick with them. Once you communicate your problem and come up with a resolution. Come up with a way that it doesn’t rear it’s ugly head again..

You and your spouse are more powerful than you think. You’re adults; you’re a family unit. You can control visits, holiday celebrations, and access to grandchildren. Don’t assume that you’re powerless. No one can push you around if you don’t let them.

Leave your comments below so we can discuss.

~Janae

Just A Conversation

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Can we talk?

This is just a conversation. It won’t be long winded and drawn out. It will be me having a conversation with my readers. I hope you’ll join in. In recent events I have heard and seen some of the most nastiest things ever. Now first let me say this, this isn’t about religion, beliefs or your “right/wrong”. This is about a day and time where NO LIVES MATTER. Black,white,yellow, blue or green. There has been so much death surrounding our neighborhoods, it’s actually causing fear in people. They are scared to leave their homes. There are 2 points I want to make and then I’m done. First of all,no one will ever respect or care about our lives as African Americans until we do. Yelling black lives matters in the streets mean NOTHING if we’re killing each other in the same streets. Period. Secondly the horrifying events that have transpired this week have me in the saddest mood. We as humanity have just made something so precious as life seem so meaningless. ALL LIFE MATTERS. The negativity that has been spewed all over social media has made me despise mankind. Agreeing with one another does not make this world work. Understanding differences and working together to make this world we all share just a little more peaceful day by day does. Love is powerful and it takes a strong person to live life in love. Hate and judgment is for the weak. All I ask is that we pray and work just a little harder towards better days. Some may agree or some may not. That’s OK because its just a conversation.

Janae

My Poetry…..

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So many times
Time has given
Us a moment
Where time stands still
And still….nothing

Its something I cant
Let go of
Unsure love
Make sure of
My feelings
Before spewing doubt
Cause I could do without

Hesitation in my words
Because they’re never heard
Just laughs and jokes
Pokes of fun at feelings
My dealings with you
Have changed and rearranged
Into simple hi and byes
Because what I’ve realized
Hurt quite a bit

But it’s ok
It’s my fault anyway
So I sit and sway in my thoughts
In my moments of solidarity
The only way to have clarity
Is to hide you in my poetry

Janae

Dating With Children

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When parents divorce or separate, their children’s world is often turned upside down. Feelings of loss, anger and confusion are common in this situation. Children who have lost parents through death have similar feelings. Even children of single parents can have negative feelings associated with “not having” a mother or father in their life.

When a parent begins dating, these negative feelings can be intensified for the child. Dating is a huge step for single parents—and their children. If you’ve decided to start dating, it is important for you to discuss and accept all of your child’s feelings when this happens. It’s also critical that you carefully consider who will be spending time around your children.

When a parent begins a new relationship children experience a range of emotions, such as:

1.Feeling insecure:
Some children may feel their security threatened when their parents begin to date. They may become angry and aggressive. Some children wonder if they will still be loved if their parent finds a new partner. Make sure to ease your child’s fears by showing and telling them how much you love them. Show an interest in everything they do and congratulate them for their achievements as well as their efforts.

2.Dealing with change:
It is sometimes hard for children when there are changes in their everyday life. This is particularly true when it involves a parent’s new “friend.” For example, be sensitive to how your child feels when he/she comes around. Keep things as routine as possible.

3.Worries about a new parent:
When dating gets serious and children hear anything to do with a possible “new parent,” they may be concerned that one of their parents will literally be replaced. Make sure to reassure your child that if your new relationship becomes permanent your new partner will be an addition to their life, and not a replacement.

Remember, your children need comfort and reassurance. They need to know that their parents will always love them, even if and when their parents form new relationships. Comment below to discuss the topic.

 

~Janae

A Letter To Our Readers…. Mani Hendrixx

Dear Readers,

Hello My Loves! I know some of you are upset with me. Through these last few months I’ve been through an abundance of trial filled days. I have so much to catch you all up on. However, before I begin, I have to say that I’m sorry for leaving you & I will never leave you again!

Since we last met, there has been a lot of changes in my life. Allow me to introduce myself, my name is Mani Hendrixx & I’m a plus size model, blogger & a lot of other titles you can add under my name. The most important thing is, I’m going to keep it real with you. People seem to forget that there’s more than one way of thinking, & that’s why I’m here.

To my new readers, I hope you will enjoy my-post & follow me on other social media accounts! I use my blog as a journal, & as I open my mind to share my thoughts you’ll see that this isn’t just a blog post, it’s apart of my testimony. I won’t speak on anything I haven’t gone through, but my opinions are open for discussion & also my inbox for topics. I love communicating with you all! Y’all can follow me on Instagram @Mani.Hendrixx and also
Twitter @ManiHendrixx

Happy Reading,
Mani Hendrixx

The Best Of The Worst

 

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Choices to be made
Paid politician
Promising a life
Equality and love
Shove that crap up
Someone else’s pipe
Pipe down with all
The lies and gimmicks you tell
To hell with your descriptive infomercials
To sell your soul for a dollar
They holler “choose the lesser of 2 evils”
Ridiculous
Inconspicuous at the polls
Trying to hide
The embarrassment of
Choosing a leader
With a brain meter that reads
Rich and Richer
I can picture then now explaining
Why nothing they promised had truth anymore
Just sore asses from sitting
And doing nothing
But rustle up papers
With bills and decisions
Incisions deeper and deeper
Just leave her alone
This great country of ours
Hours and hours
Of rehabilitation is about to go
Down the drain
And some of you
Just can’t get that through your brain

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