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Let’s Have  Conversation : Relationship Deal Breakers


So your new to the dating scene or maybe getting back out there. What are your deal breakers? What are the things you just won’t tolerate? For everyone its different of course, but I’ve heard some very similar answers recently that I would love to share with y’all.

1. Smokers or drug users

There are times you can tell right away whether someone smokes, drinks or does drugs. But sometimes, this information takes time to emerge. Or you might know about it but think it will be okay. Then you realize that it is getting in the way of the relationship. Be honest about how you feel on this because its not ok to put your feelings aside if its that important.

2. Children

The issue of having children needs to be dealt with early in a relationship. If you really want children and your partner says he or she doesn’t, do not count on this changing. So many people get into relationships hoping that they can change their partners mind. It can definitely cause a rift in the relationship and possibly to end. Listen to your partner and really decide if your really ok with the possibility of not having children.

3. Money

Now this is a big one. First things first, if your a saver and your partner is a spender, this can cause many relationship problems. Sometimes this can be solved ahead of time when the spender agrees to let the saver manage the money. But if the spender is addicted to spending , this isn’t going to work. You have to decide if you can deal with this or not. If your trying to build a future, then this definitely needs to be talked about.

4. Cheating

Last but not least, if you find out that your partner has cheated you have a decision to make. Some people in this situation give their partner another chance. But others move on if they find out that their partner has cheated. If it seems hopeless like its no break in sight, do what you need to do to keep your peace. Just let it go. Now if you both decide to go into counseling and do the deep work necessary to heal the underlying issues, then go for it!

Comment below with your deal breakers and lets discuss.



There is an issue that is going on in our society but more in the last decade that needs to be addressed. The issue I’m referring to is SELF LOVE amongst women. From the reality shows down to the women we run across in our everyday lives. This is a sickening sight to see from what used to be the symbol of strength. The young women of today have no desire to be the best because they have very little authentic influences. There is this trend of now looking for it in men, makeup and money. Now don’t get me wrong each plays a role in our world as women period, but it has never been what makes us as individuals. As far as relationships are concerned lack of self-love can definitely add stress.


The biggest obstacle involving the intimacy you desire with the special person in your life is a part or parts of yourself you do not love. These are hidden parts you have never fully accepted, perhaps pieces of you that were disowned, rejected or shamed by a parent when you were a small, or things you feared would cause conflict or anger. But today is a new day and women are not only strong, but there is also an incredible amount of ways with which they can manifest this strength into something beautiful and life changing. At one time woman used to be able to walk in a room and command attention without saying one word, and we can get there once again. My heart hurts for my fellow females. Our future depends on you and your ability to see you have everything you need to be your best within you. You are strong! You are great! You are the heartbeat of the world! Don’t let us die.


Selfish……..Kim Kardashian? Literally

Well, I think i have seen about all of it now. Kim Kardashian images (1) (not surprising) is about to release a 352 page book of selfies. Yes ya’ll selfies. She has taken photo after photo in order to produce this picture book. download (1)  

           The way i see it, its a HOW TO TAKE A SELFIE FOR DUMMIES. You can learn how to take a selfie, and all the different poses you can produce…..;LIKE REALLY? Now i normally dont knock anyone’s hustle when they’re trying to make it but its not like she’s broke. The asking price for this book is $19.95 hmmmmmm REALLY.

      I need to know what you all think of this discovery. WOULD YOU PURCHASE IT? DO YOU THINK ITS A GOOD INVESTMENT? WAS IT A SMART MONEY MOVE? Let us know your thoughts on KIM KARDASHIAN and her picture book.


Thickly Yours,

Tamika Mys’Tique